A gathering in the darkness.
an invitation to meet around the collective glow of togetherness.
I’m Lyndsay, mother, creative and storyteller with a background in interiors PR. Story & Thread. is a weekly letter exploring the intersection of creativity, mothering and the living world, with a home and a garden at the heart...
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Hi everyone
How are you doing this week?
As I wrote in my last letter, we are now very much embedded in the darker half of the year here in the Northern Hemisphere, even more so since the clocks fell back in time at the weekend and with the drenching onset of Storm Ciarán.
The darkness around us continues to reflect the heaviness on a global scale which feels deeply divisive, and so instead of solely cocooning myself, I am finding some glints of light in talking and togetherness.
I loved introducing ATELIER last week, a new collaborative interview series about our creative spaces, processes and rituals, and really appreciated the enthusiastic and supportive responses — I look forward to it unfolding with you all.
I have been so inspired by the raft of generous posts over the last week or so that set out to celebrate beautiful writing and the people behind the words…
and have collaborated to create a beautiful offering ‘Substack Love’, a community nomination station with the opportunity to share writing that you have been moved by in order to support each other’s work….
has launched a new series called ‘Sunday Flowers’, a gift of sweetness on the last Sunday of the month where she shares the people she is celebrating and the resources she has been inspired by…
shares her tales of connection in unlocking her own creativity in the post ‘Collaboration is key’…
To celebrate reaching an amazing 100 recommendations for her publication , has started a series on Notes to highlight the newsletters she recommends…
This spirit of collaboration leads me to my letter today and invitation to join me as we step through the misty portal in the darker days ahead…
A potent portal.
The week spanning the end of October and the beginning of November is a potent and spellbinding portal that marks the midpoint between the autumnal equinox and the winter solstice.
It is an ancient gateway carved into a backdrop of otherworldliness — the swirling depths of Scorpio season, alongside remnants of the Full Blood Moon, the lingering magic and mayhem from Halloween, and the most enchanting of them all — the festival of Samhain (pronounced Sow-wen), meaning ‘summer’s end’; also the name for November in Gaelic and once marked the Celtic New Year.
It is a threshold, symbolising endings and beginnings — the end of summer, of growth and abundance, closing a chapter on a year; whilst it is the beginning of winter and a natural turning inward as much of the living world dies back into the earth, coming into rest.
A threshold is defined as any place or point of entering or beginning — it is a space rich with potential, dancing between one thing and another. Enhancing the feeling of liminality at this time of year is the ancient belief and inexplicable feeling that the boundary between this world and the Otherworld is at its thinnest — allowing us to access the magic, beauty and wisdom of the unseen realms.
A pause.
As well as being a portal to pass through, a threshold involves the act of ‘threshing’, which demands active participation in transformation.
For me right now, active participation means taking a pause. A moment to sit in the darkness and listen inwards to whispers from the shadows.
In this chapter of my life, the unseen speaks to a kind of magic that is nestled within the everyday, intertwined with the invisible micro-moments of mothering — the holding, the carrying, the learning and unlearning, the unravelling whilst providing a steadiness and a home within me — so subtle and often entirely imperceptible to the outside world.
A pause nudges me towards stillness, a rootedness that takes me away from overwhelm and is woven by the shape of my family, my home, my ancestry, my local surroundings, time in solitude and in the memories and nostalgia of my childhood.
A pause means stopping to discern, refine and shed — letting go of the many ‘shoulds’, to instead turn my gaze inwards, towards a contentment in what we are creating by simply showing up each day, noticing the intangible spirit within our home, laced with light and a wash of magic.
An invitation…
Historically within communities at Samhain, home fires were left to burn out in the hearth as the last of the harvesting took place. Instead, a collective, community fire was lit that provided warmth and light, representing the sun in its absence. After the dancing, feasting and gathering, people re-lit their home fires with light from the community fire.
This notion prompted me to the idea behind this post as an opportunity to gather together in the darkness, illuminated by the soft glow of a collective fire.
As well as writing, reading the stories and reflections of others feels incredibly nourishing to me. It helps me to make sense of my thoughts, which in turn tumble into new ideas, allowing me to slowly remember and uncover my voice — a voice that becomes clearest when it is expressed, nurtured and reflected in connection and collaboration.
It is a voice that invites us all to take up a little more space, to reclaim a connection to ourselves and to our place in the world.
With that in mind, I would love if you were to gather here, to pause if you can and linger a little while…
*Take a few moments to introduce yourself…
*What lights you up?
*What feeling do you hope to embody in the darkest days ahead?
I’ll go first…
I am Lyndsay, mother, creative and storyteller with a background in interiors PR. Before having children, I worked with interiors brands, designers and architects in London and internationally, travelling to Venice, Brussels and Miami to visit fabric archives containing ancient textile fragments, glittering art fairs, and the homes of artists, collectors and creatives. I am now very much rooted in my local surroundings in North London, creating my own home as a foundation to nurture my two little ones, as well as a canvas of creativity and an anchor to my surroundings, as the seasons turn in our corner of the world. I hope to find a way of aligning my interests with my past experience to create an offering, more on that soon…
Connection and collaboration light me up. Discussing ideas and drawing out stories in a meaningful way has always been at the heart of things for me.
I would like to embody contentment and magic in the darker days ahead.
I would love to hear your stories here in the Comments (or feel free to reply to me directly if you are not on Substack…). I hope we can take a glimmer of light and warmth from a collective fire back into our own homes and lives.
Lyndsay, this was uttely lovely to read. So many of your sentences gave me goosebumps.. the lighting of a communal fire - just lovely. I am currently living in two worlds, one foot in autumn (having been born and living my entire childhood in the UK) and one foot in Spring (living my adult life mostly in Australia)... I feel a deep connection with both seasons and both worlds. What once confused me, in the past 12 months has become my deepest strength. I have been able to allow these two sides of me to live as one, separate, offering dual perspectives and emotions, but living as one within me. I am approaching my 40th year, I am a mother to three wild and beautiful boys, an interior designer and career mentor. I have had many experiences and roles throughout my life and can see now how they all dovetail into one another. I want to write about our homes in a way that brings us greater connection to ourselves, I want to offer people joy & hope through my words. That is why I chose the word 'Home' for my publication. I feel it encompasses so much of our lives, it's not just about making a home beautiful, it is so much more than that. I feel such a deep sense of peach here on Substack. I am so keen to start a podcast, but it terrifies me, which probably means I should do it! I truly love your words and your voice Lyndsey. Thank you for this beautiful, connected post. Lis xx
I love this! I love how Substack is such a beautiful community, and so many people here are keen to bring people together and support one another instead of competing with and shouting over each other. It really warms my soul!
I'm Allegra, I'm 39 (for two more weeks - eep!), and I live on the south coast of England. Right next to the beach, which is my happy place. I'm an author, a columnist and a creativity coach, as well as an entrepreneur, and a mum to a five-year-old and two-year-old. I'm passionate about creativity as a tool for wellbeing, self-discovery and empowerment, and I set up IAmHappy.substack.com to investigate how creativity (in greater alignment with nature) can bring us more joy and fulfilment. My name means "happy" in Italian, so the name is a bit of a pun on that.
Creativity is what lights me up. I love writing and making art (although I'm definitely better at the former than the latter!), but I also enjoy baking, knitting, crafting, photography... any kind of making things. I love big ideas, and I really enjoy a good brainstorm.
I never used to enjoy this time of year. Ironically, as it's my birthday. But it's cold, it's wet, it's dark... I love the light and colour and energy of autumn, but by November that's faded to slushy greyness. However, in recent years I've started to really lean in to it. I make a big deal out of making my home cosy. I love the ritual of making a fire in the evenings, and I light candles everywhere. I get out all the cosy blankets, and the big woolen socks. I really savour that sense of turning inwards that you get from nature. The trees and the ground seem bare, but actually the buds are already there waiting to unfurl new leaves, the bulbs are already germinating in the soil, this is the time for new life to begin growing and strengthening in the dark, ready to burst into the light come spring. It feels like the perfect time to start germinating new ideas, building and strengthening them so that they're ready to come out into the light in spring. So over the next couple of months I'm going for cosiness and creativity!